What I mean by this title is the fact that you should learn to “get out there” and really let yourself be heard if you are truly talented. The problem with many people in the music industry is that many times, their lack of talent has been over-compensated with over-blown egos, and the ability to “talk the talk” more than they can “walk the walk!” Unfortunately, these types are all over the place, and I’m sure you may know someone like this, regardless of the level of the music business you have achieved.
It’s really up to you in the long run, in terms of how you handle yourself, but after awhile, you’ll see that how you feel about your playing and abilities is really what should dictate how you present yourself to others. I have always believed in “if you’ve got it, flaunt it” as a way of looking at things, as sometimes, we may actually be the last ones to know how really good we are! It’s always a hard thing to know how others really perceive you, but the feedback you can get from really showing your “goods” can prove invaluable, and will make your presentation of yourself far more realistic and honest in the future.
If you’re good, and really know it, and can prove it, well then by all means, carry yourself with pride, and let your voice be heard at the right time. In the end, it will always be your playing that will speak for itself, but your belief in yourself is what will get you there in the first place! I was very young when I had already developed a strong sense of my own guitar identity, and even though I still had a long way to go in my “social” skills, I was still compelled to further my career and music by showing off my wares whenever I got the chance. It seemed to always pay off, and certainly had a far greater impact than if I had just continued to practice in my bedroom, wishing that something would happen. I had to make it happen, and as a result, I was recording and touring by the age of 17! The cumulative effect of me doing all this at such a young age made for a great degree of confidence, but also had the other impact of making me far more humble and aware of a whole new set of rules now that I was really thrust into the music industry so quickly. I really wouldn’t trade that experience for anything, and I certainly would encourage you to do this also, as much as you can.
Just remember that confidence, like your playing, can come in all shapes and sizes, and the level you are good at should match the level of your confidence. In the end, there will always be someone better and more experienced than you….but the question is, will they be able to match your level of confidence? This is where you can make up extra ground in a hurry for you, and will always pay off good dividends! Best of luck!